My pastor while I was growing up, rest his soul, use to have a saying to all of the honeymooners when they came back to church after their honeymoon. He would chuckle and say "Wow you came to church is the Honey still in the moon?" The whole church would burst into laughter as the new couple would blush. Now that I am grown, I look back and remember how you could tell those that came to church because they were saved and grateful for their new found love but also really wanted to stay cuddled up next to that love one and those that really saw church as a solace to get away from that person.
During this past few months I have seen so many marriages just fall apart. When the details come out you find that somewhere alone the line the nurture and courting stop! For some there was no foundation for the relationship at all. We ask society why are so many of our young people not desiring the sanctify of marriage. WHY...because it is not fun to them. There is no laughter, affection, communication or respect that they see from us as adults in marriages today. If Daddy is always demeaning mommy, if mommy is always yelling at dad what would make me desire marriage.
My children often tell me mommy and daddy you all are so funny; you too laugh too much; you too kiss too much; you two are really funny and if by chance they see us arguing the common statement is mommy why are you so quiet, why is daddy quiet? While they see us get upset with each other it is NEVER in a disrespectful way, NEVER!!!! Now I am not trying to fool anyone we argue and have our bad days like any other relationship but my kids will tell you: Daddy doesn’t let anybody disrespect mommy. Mommy doesn’t yell at or disrespect daddy. Why? RESPECT!!! Do we disagree yes, does he make me mad oh yea, but I am aware of my children and how my actions affect them, I am aware that this is the man I promise to spend my life with and I often ask the question can I live with what I say in the morning, but most of all I FEAR GOD!
We are for loving only should be our daily goal for our spouse. Using my Pastor statement, the Honey should never come out of the moon. Love is a constant action word. That means we should constantly be doing things in a loving and respectful manner. We should constantly show our spouse we love them, but remember we are showing our children too. In other words you should be constantly doing something to spice up your love affair with your spouse and when those times come where you don’t agree, remember WHAT would Jesus do? AND don’t be like me and say well I am not Jesus (LOL). Seriously though every effort should be made to reconcile your differences in a timely manner. Pride must be forsaken many times and the heart must be willing to reconcile itself past the hurt. This is not always easy but it is a necessary process for a successful Christian marriage and healthy Christian life.
The same should be the same with your relationship with Christ. So many of us think of our relationship with Christ as a one sided relationship. Well Christ said he loved me he will take care of me, but that is not how this relationship thing should work. We MUST show appreciation, gratitude, respect, and love to that special someone and especially to Christ.
Today we watch so many marriages fall apart strictly because they forgot the lover in them. We have teen pregnancies and none responsible fathers why because the structure of the home is messed up!!! I say this with the upmost respect...Marriage is the first Covenant of God!
BOOOOYAAAAA!!!! How many went to the family dinner and forgot that they were married none the less a Christian. How many went on the out of town excursion and left Christ sitting in your living room with your husband/wife. How many said I can talk to God another Day...Ladies and Men how many of you treat your marriage just like you treat your relationship to Christ!!! What I am seeing is as long as God is blessing you he is in your life, as long as your spouse is loving on you and giving you all the attention you can't do with out him/her.
I caution everyone I am watching a lot of marriages go array because we treat our commitment to our marriage just like we treat our relationship with Christ, a fly by night relationship. When you fly by (I use the pronoun you) the thinking of, as long as you do what I think you should I need you, as long as you cater to me I love you; as long as you let me have my way I love you, and the list goes on. So as Pastor J.E. King would say "Is the Honey still in the MOON?"
Can you say you a Lover of Christ and your mate……
1. How can you just endow him with your love, take a walk and just talk to him and think on every good thing he has done for you in just that day. Praise him for just allowing you to call him
Savior!!! When praises go up blessings go down.... This works for your spouse too, HINT HINT!
2. Write Christ a love letter.. I do it often, this keeps me grounded, it shows me a lot of things that I take for granted that he has done. I have done this for my husband too!!!!
John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends…I feel as if I can not breath with out my husband and I would give my life for him!!! Can you say that about the one you love?
3. Fellowship with him... put on your favorite worship song and just go in......Put your favorite Love song on and just get it onJ
So let’s see lovers.....
Genesis 29:20
So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.
1. Right now as you reading are you thinking how can I seduce him to come home early. Call him tell you were just thinking about how he makes you..........(ladies use your imagination)
Proverbs 5:19
A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.
2. Write him a love letter or a poem nothing hits a man when a women can put her emotions in beautiful love notes for no reason!!! Trust me it reaps beautiful benefits
Song of Solomon 8:6
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. (NIV)Song of Solomon 8:7
Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. (NIV)
Like I said Marriage is for Lover’s only, not for the faint of heart, not for the immature teenagers, and not for one that can not commit to the vows of marriage hold heartedly!!! TILL DEATH DO US PART, A VERY POWERFUL STATEMENT!
