Broken.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ahqlPGj31aY

I am broken but not discourage persecuted but not dismayed I am a vessel full of power with the presences of the Lord!!!

As a Pastor's wife I am in a unique position to see brokenness at a different view.  I get to hear the stories after stories of brokenness from all over, not just at the church but from the day to day events my husband may be involved with, to the various young ladies I counsel, to the beautiful sisters I am blessed to fellowship with. Yet this post has been the hardest for me to write, because my spirit is broken and dismayed with the current state of our Christian community. 

Brokenness is something that everyone, Saved, Saint and Sinner will experience. While many may not admit this it is a fact that brokenness is a fact of life.  My brokenness is not because someone came and call me out of my name, many times it is not because I did not get my way, my brokenness is when I have prayed, fasted, tried and tried and God still "SEEMS" as if he just is not hearing my cry.  My brokenness isn't because you talked about me it is because I asked God to fix you, well the spirit that brought your negative-ness yet you continue.  My brokenness comes from watching saints; the Christian community continues to give Christ substandard devotion, half hearted worship and kitchen sink praise.  Even though before I go into any spiritual meeting I ask him Lord let them see how wonderful you are!! 

I am broken my sisters and brothers not because anyone has done anything it is because so many have done nothing.  I have watched this world, this country; our communities and our churches just diminish so in our values, our morals and our Christian belief.

When is it now okay for a Pastor to have an affair on his wife, steal from the church and than preach for the sacred podium proclaiming the love, adoration and commitment of Christ to us.  Why is it okay for a Pastor to despise his mother and father, have animosity toward other men of God including their own brothers but continue to preach forgiveness and God's redemptive blood from the sacred podium. Why is it okay for fellow people of the cloth to be okay to chastise their congregation for looking so sternly on these act yet are the first not to chastise or correct their fellow coharts in the ministry. 

I have had two people this week tell me the reason they can not go back to church is because of what a Pastor has done to offend.  It wasn't until last night that I understood that when the hurt comes from the Pulpit it is far greater than anyone else because this is the person that is to represent God in Christ like behavior. (Yes I know they are still human yet that is the excuse we give everyday and the sinner man per the conversation I had yesterday is not buying it.  Like I was told you tell me I am just justifying my actions when I give you an excuse but are you not doing the same!!! WOW is all I could say.  People we "Christians are hurting and hindering the salvation of this world!) 

2 Chronicles 7:14

King James Version (KJV)

¹⁴ If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

It is okay for our Christians to go to church everyday, claim their ever dying love towards Christ but will not call or even speak to a love one in need.  It is okay for us to say we are saved but before we leave the church grounds speak ill of our brothers and sisters.

Saints I JUST WASN'T RAISED LIKE THAT!!!!!

1. The man of God that I sat under for over 30 years and the one I sit under now, daily prayer was/is Lord I don't want to be a jack leg preacher. A preacher that was everywhere but did nothing or one that no one trusted or believe in. My husband constant prayer is let them see the Christ in me!

1 Timothy 3:2, 12

"A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach. . . . Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well."

2.  I was taught to honor your mother and father...to bring honor unto them. Whether they were right or wrong.  My mother often say's it matters not what you do to me, but it matters how I treat you!!!

Proverbs 19:26 King James 2000

He that mistreats his father, and chases away his mother, is a son that causes shame, and brings reproach.

3. Ought against your brother and still preaching and telling people about forgiveness. How can you teach something when you don't practice. Great Link!! This link helped me through some rough times in my life.  So now it doesn't matter if you speak to me or not I have forgiving you and moved on!!
http://pastormikeadventist.blogspot.com/2008/12/ought-against-thy-brother.html

4. Christ Like behavior as a Christian is not as easy as people think, trust me I am learning this everyday, but we as Christian made a promise to Christ to strive to be Christ Like!!! How do we claim to be doers of his word when we speak ill of our brothers and sister, and gossip. I haven't read anywhere that this is acceptable in Christ Sight!!!

James 1:22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

Ya'll I am so glad that as my husband preached a couple Sunday's ago that GOD can mend my broken pieces.  I am so glad that I am not bound by the words of man who are just flesh and blood like me.  I hear so many men of God say "hey, hey I am a pastor or preacher, but there lives depict whole different life styles" God said touch not his anointed. What everyone forget that if we are save they are also God's anointed, so what if they touch his anointed.  There is song that simply says "somebody going to pay for my tears" One thing I have truly learned that just because we are saved, just because a title has been attached to your name DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO OFFEND, HURT OR DIMEAN ANYONE, THROUGH CHRIST!  As I am growing in Christ I am learning to distance myself from people that feel they can say and do anything and hide behind the Cloth because in this short life I am seeing a lot of men of God, and Christians pay an enormous price for their sins against God's anointed. 

Proverbs 26:27

Whoever digs a pit will fall into it,
and he who rolls a stone will have it roll back on him.

Saints God is a vengeful God that is word, so don't believe that our continued disobedience, disrespect towards our parents, children and others, our lack of love and honor, and our lack of fear for his word and commandments will not be answered for.  God showed me something wonderful today...Vengeance is mine saith the Lord!! He will have the final say!!

Romans 12:19 (King James Version)

Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

Deuteronomy 32:35 :

King James Bible
To me belongeth vengeance and recompence; their foot shall slide in due time: for the day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon them make haste

So..I am troubled, yet not distressed. Perplexed, but not in despair. Cause I’m a vessel full of power, With a treasure, none can compare.
Persecuted, but not forsaken. Cast down, but not destroyed. I’m a vessel full of power With a treasure, from the Lord.

This is for the lovers strictly for the lovers.....

My pastor while I was growing up, rest his soul, use to have a saying to all of the honeymooners when they came back to church after their honeymoon. He would chuckle and say "Wow you came to church is the Honey still in the moon?" The whole church would burst into laughter as the new couple would blush.  Now that I am grown, I look back and remember how you could tell  those that came to church because they were saved and grateful for their new found love but also really wanted to stay cuddled up next to that love one and those that really saw church as a solace to get away from that person.

During this past few months I have seen so many marriages just fall apart. When the details come out you find that somewhere alone the line the nurture and courting stop! For some there was no foundation for the relationship at all. We ask society why are so many of our young people not desiring the sanctify of marriage. WHY...because it is not fun to them. There is no laughter, affection, communication or respect that they see from us as adults in marriages today.  If Daddy is always demeaning mommy, if mommy is always yelling at dad what would make me desire marriage.

My children often tell me mommy and daddy you all are so funny; you too laugh too much; you too kiss too much; you two are really funny and if by chance they see us arguing the common statement is mommy why are you so quiet, why is daddy quiet? While they see us get upset with each other it is NEVER in a disrespectful way, NEVER!!!!  Now I am not trying to fool anyone we argue and have our bad days like any other relationship but my kids will tell you: Daddy doesn’t let anybody disrespect mommy. Mommy doesn’t yell at or disrespect daddy. Why?  RESPECT!!! Do we disagree yes, does he make me mad oh yea, but I am aware of my children and how my actions affect them, I am aware that this is the man I promise to spend my life with and I often ask the question can I live with what I say in the morning, but most of all I FEAR GOD!

We are for loving only should be our daily goal for our spouse. Using my Pastor statement, the Honey should never come out of the moon. Love is a constant action word. That means we should constantly be doing things in a loving and respectful manner. We should constantly show our spouse we love them, but remember we are showing our children too. In other words you should be constantly doing something to spice up your love affair with your spouse and when those times come where you don’t agree, remember WHAT would Jesus do?  AND don’t be like me and say well I am not Jesus (LOL). Seriously though every effort should be made to reconcile your differences in a timely manner.  Pride must be forsaken many times and the heart must be willing to reconcile itself past the hurt.  This is not always easy but it is a necessary process for a successful Christian marriage and healthy Christian life.

The same should be the same with your relationship with Christ. So many of us think of our relationship with Christ as a one sided relationship. Well Christ said he loved me he will take care of me, but that is not how this relationship thing should work. We MUST show appreciation, gratitude, respect, and love to that special someone and especially to Christ.

Today we watch so many marriages fall apart strictly because they forgot the lover in them. We have teen pregnancies and none responsible fathers why because the structure of the home is messed up!!! I say this with the upmost respect...Marriage is the first Covenant of God!

BOOOOYAAAAA!!!! How many went to the family dinner and forgot that they were married none the less a Christian. How many went on the out of town excursion and left Christ sitting in your living room with your husband/wife. How many said I can talk to God another Day...Ladies and Men how many of you treat your marriage just like you treat your relationship to Christ!!! What I am seeing is as long as God is blessing you he is in your life, as long as your spouse is loving on you and giving you all the attention you can't do with out him/her.

I caution everyone I am watching a lot of marriages go array because we treat our commitment to our marriage just like we treat our relationship with Christ, a fly by night relationship. When you fly by (I use the pronoun you) the thinking of, as long as you do what I think you should I need you, as long as you cater to me I love you; as long as you let me have my way I love you, and the list goes on.  So as Pastor J.E. King would say "Is the Honey still in the MOON?"

Can you say you a Lover of Christ and your mate……

1. How can you just endow him with your love, take a walk and just talk to him and think on every good thing he has done for you in just that day. Praise him for just allowing you to call him

Savior!!! When praises go up blessings go down....  This works for your spouse too, HINT HINT!

2. Write Christ a love letter.. I do it often, this keeps me grounded, it shows me a lot of things that I take for granted that he has done.   I have done this for my husband too!!!!

John 15:13

Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends…I feel as if I can not breath with out my husband and I would give my life for him!!! Can you say that about the one  you love?

3. Fellowship with him... put on your favorite worship song and just go in......Put your favorite Love song on and just get it onJ

So let’s see lovers.....

Genesis 29:20

So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days.

1. Right now as you reading are you thinking how can I seduce him to come home early. Call him tell you were just thinking about how he makes you..........(ladies use your imagination)

Proverbs 5:19

A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.

2. Write him a love letter or a poem nothing hits a man when a women can put her emotions in beautiful love notes for no reason!!! Trust me it reaps beautiful benefits

Song of Solomon 8:6

Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame. (NIV)Song of Solomon 8:7

Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. (NIV)

Like I said Marriage is for Lover’s only, not for the faint of heart, not for the immature teenagers, and not for one that can not commit to the vows of marriage hold heartedly!!!  TILL DEATH DO US PART, A VERY POWERFUL STATEMENT!

MAXWELL HAS A SONG I ATTACHED BELOW PLEASE LISTEN AND READ THE LYRICS THEY ARE PRETTY DEEP!!!!

 

 

To my little girls....

http://youtu.be/qpSE3eZTCNo

Walking in Faith Everyday sole purpose is to catalog my life as a Christian wife, mother and women and to encourage young girls and women that being a WIFE is to the glory of God.  While I haven't blog in a couple of weeks I wanted to reach out and touch everyone today because lately I have been inundated with society's requirements for our young people today.

While my mother home schooled for over 15 years, my choice contrary to people's belief was not influence by her.  It was strictly because I wanted my little girls and boys to be children as long as I could keep them that way.  I wanted them to enjoy and experience every piece of joy they could come with living for Christ as a child. I wanted them to be pure and kept for the mate God chose for them.  While nothing but Christ can gurantee this it is my job as a parent to train them in the way of the Lord!

See as of Today, I have been a youth director, and youth advisor, a cheer coach, a cheer coordinator and now I am bless to work for YDC which is a youth work program.  Now if somebody had of told me while I was growing up I would have to deal with children I would tell them they were lying because I don't have a lot of patience.  Yet I have watch young lady after young lady treat their lives so carelessly.

Why do we no longer encourage our young ladies to become a WIFE!!!  There is shame of being a stay at home mom, shame being a virgin and shame of being a dotting wife.  So many wives and mother's saying I don't want this for my daughter.  I want her not to be defined as a mother or a wife!!  GET A DEGREE girl don't let no man take care of you!!!  I don't need a man!!! or the best statement is... I just want a baby to love of my own!!! Not a man, not that I want Jesus yet they want a child of their own!!!! OH my little girls please do not sale yourself so cheap!!!

Please see what being a WIFE represents to me!!!

WOMEN of GOD- I pray that every one reading this today promises to ensure that they know how precious they are as a Women of God.  God tell man to respect as the weaker being because of our strength.  He recognizes us as the "weaker sex" so that our hearts wouldn't be so tough that we couldn't show mercy, love and compassion.  Now this may be to a friend, this may be to a sibling, it may be towards your husband or to your child, but it is scriptural noted that we are the nurturers. 
 Psalms 4:3 (kjv) For I was my father's son, tender and only beloved in the sight of my mother.
Mothering - A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

Infinite Wisdom- Proverbs classifies a virtuous woman as a wise woman with her body, her time, her money, her family and her home! Young Ladies (10-21) who told you that your body is not the temple of GOD!!!  Why are you so concerned with what society consider you to be?  Why is it so taboo to be a Virgin?  Young Single Women of God why are we giving away our temples so easily to man.  What has happened that we no longer consider our bodies gifts only to be given to the man God has for us??? Women of God (Married Women)  I want to curse I am so angry but why are so many women having affairs??? What happen to us only wanting to have physical relations with the man we love?  So many of us (Christian) are talking one way but living another..

Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman builds her house: but the foolish plucks it down with her hands.
Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18)

Faithfully waiting on Gods Plan for you- They who wait on the Lord will renew their strength!!!!  I am not judging but mom's are we still teaching our daughters to wait on God's man to find his Good thing?  Proverbs 31:10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.
And if they make a mistake because everybody makes mistake are we encouraging God's forgiveness embracing our daughters in love and showing them that God never turns his back on us.  We fall down but we can always get back up?
Now Faith is the substance of things hope for and the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

Ephesians 6:16 (KJV) Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.

       
Enlisting Gods everlasting Love and guidance in all we do!!!!  Proverbs 3:6 In all thine ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy path!  My dear little girls, I hear Jesus calling do you not know that I love you.  Do you not know that I only want the very best for you?  Don't you know that I strategically took a rib from one very special man and have him out on this earth looking for you.  I will not fool you trials and test will come.  I will use you sometimes to mold the man of God I have into the man I want him to be.  I will use you to bring into this world more pastors, preachers, doctors, lawyers and better yet more beautiful mothers like you.  Know that I have given you one of the most honored title WOMEN......why because only a women of God can give the first state of life and if you and your husband train that child in the Lord I will give him/her the second form of life eternal!!!!

To my little Girls please Walk in Faith Everyday Young Ladies knowing that you are a precious jewel's of God being molded for your BOAZ!!!

I'll be Stroking......

So after a dynamic, heartwarming, and out right awesome job by our First Lady "Michelle" Obama, God gave me this awesome thought, how many of us are stroking the wrong men for the wrong reason!  Yeah I got ya'll on this one!!! For those that are giving up the cookie with out getting the commitment I mean sex too...LOL!!!  I was even going to put Clarence Carter on for ya'll, LOL!!! My church family would fall out!!!!  Anywho...

See in the past few months my husband and I have embarked on sooooooooooooo many relationships that quite frankly started out for the wrong reason.  No love, no commitment, no desire, no substance, and especially no GOD!  It hurts me, it saddens me and it truly worries me because women are supporting a person, because he look good, he gives her all the things she wants, Gurl he drives that car, gurl he is rolling, yea he treat my kids good,but when did you ask is he SAVED!!!! Is this my Boaz?  Lord is this who you want me with!  Men you can use the same questions, but whatever your gender God should be the deciding factor!

Please note everybody take this from someone that has been in the previous position, I am so not judging I am just saying. See my words were," Eww he is fine Lord please let him see me, (he is Gay) or Well he treats me really good, maybe I should give him a chance" (he was abusive), but let me tell the HELL I caught from both of them!!!

So let me borrow some words from my Brother Rev. Taft Cleveland, man how far would our men go if they had women to stroke their men like Michelle Obama.  Well there is no truer statement but ladies what I want you to do is TOO STOP STROKING a man that is not worthy of your affection, your love, your commitment, your compliments, and your support!!!!   JUST STOP!!!

I read post after post yesterday from men saying what if we had more women support their men after Michelle's speech, but none gave the qualification of a man Worthy of that type of EGO STROKE!

So for those that are "Stroking the wrong man" physically, spiritually, mentally, morally, and verbally if your man don't meet these criteria's you need to fall on your knees and seek the only one who can help you into the Boaz He has for you.
http://bible.org/seriespage/two-get-ready%E2%80%94i-story-boaz-and-ruthi

If you heard Michelle she named several qualities of her husband that quite frankly I thought were pretty grand, but when every I want to verify something I always take it to the Lord in prayer so here we go.  Venus Mason Theus ( a very good source on marriage) please comment if I get it wrong!!!

1.  Saved
Hebrews 11:6 ESV /    
And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him. John 14:15 ESV /    
“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.
2 Corinthians 6:14-17 ESV / 8 helpful votes
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever?

Ladies why don't we consult Christ first before we make our choice on our mate... by the way per the bible he should be looking for you not you for him!
Proverbs 18:22 ESV /     
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord



2. A provider for his home

1 Timothy 5:8 ESV / 7 helpful votes
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (My friend calls me and say gurl our house note is due and he said he had to get this new 54" TV with the surround sound, but gurl I love him though. I understand he works hard for his money)  FOR REAL!!!

3. Someone that will totally love you like Christ

Ephesians 5:25New International Version (NIV)

²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (um huh) Don't be stroking no man and he can't do this for you for real ladies!!!)

4. Someone that sacrifices for you!
Genesis 2:24 NK
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Now ladies take it from one that has six brothers and a son of her own it is hard for a man that has had a good mother and some that have had bad to leave their mothers.  I taught my son boy get out of here but the reality is mommy will always be mommy, but like I taught my son I can't do for him what his wife can do for him!! So with that being said understand when that man chooses you over his family that is a sacrifice. In the real world that choice will have to be made sometimes it is a simple move and sometimes it is complicated but how complicated depends on a lot of factors.. that is another post!

5.  The one that you have waited on God for!
Psalm 27:14 ESV /     
Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!

Ladies when I literally threw up my hands and said well Lord I am going to be the first baptist nun, God was able to work with me!  Why because when I threw my hands up I gave my situation up to him!!! It was about six months later that I meet my husband for a second time this time I was single and well 23 years later, 18 years of marriage and three kids, I haven't stop stroking yet :)

Yesterday our First Lady described a man that took care of his family, a man of faith, a man that sacrifices every night to ensure his family needs are meet, that provides for his family and that per her own assessment was equally yoke with her!  That is a man that you can gladly stand behind to push him up, stand in front to shield, fall on your knees to cover in prayer and if you are MARRIED... stroke all night long!!!!

Ladies I truly love you but I pray and ask God that we as women will see, desire and want more for ourselves than what we are accepting.  Remember we are the child of a King and I haven't seen to many princess just get anything unless they don't follow the instructions of the Father!

Will you still love me tomorrow.....

As I fervently pray on what I want to share with everyone this week, the words I Love you keep running over and over in my head.  We often say those words so half heartily, and some only say it in a passionate kiss, a long good bye, during sex or a momentous occasion.

1 Peter 4:8 – Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sin

1 Corinthians 13:13 – And now these three remain: faith,hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

John 13:34 – A new command I give you: love one another as I have loved you, so you must love one another.

I pray that these words of life may be true to us in all our relationships

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When I first got married my husband would say why do I have to kiss you every morning when I leave?  Why do you get upset if I don't tell I love you before I leave?  Why do you have to make sure I kiss you the minute I get home?   You act so excited when I come home?  Now years later after some years of marriage I thank God, for it has been the kisses every morning, the I love you's when we both wanted to cry, the running into his arms when he got home like no one else existed when for all intent and purposes we both should have ran away that has sustained the strength of our marriage.  Now he gets mad if I don't say I love you or if I don't kiss him in the morning. It is tomorrow and guess what I still love him! 

In a blog I was reading the caption said:  You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have.  Now I would like to amend that too:
http://www.mailandfemail.com/?p=1230

YOU NEVER KNOW HOW STRONG YOUR LOVE IS UNTIL YOUR LOVE IS ALL YOU HAVE!!!

My husband and I have been through some really hard times, a sickly child at birth, a sickly wife, lost of job, health problems, family problems, and of course the mere fact he is a minister now pastor challenges have come.  Can you still love me tomorrow?  Can you say I love you when you look at your husband and wonder what is he going to do to fix this?   Man I didn't sign up for this, bills, in laws, bills, economy, foot just drama all together.

 

There is no way that I am about to say we have seen it all because despite my children belief I am still young (lol) but I can definitely say that the only thing that has kept my husband and I is Jesus Christ and the words I LOVE YOU!!!  Sometimes things have gotten so bad that all we could say is I love you.  We didn't know where to turn, we couldn't run to family, no friends to talk too, it has been a  definitely leave and cleave situation. 

Don't get me wrong marriage for me has been more good than bad and there is no one else I would want to share my bad with but the reality is that we don't realize that the words I love you are not just words of expression but action words and no matter what I still love him in the morning.  That despite what ever we are going through we will not give the Devil room to hamper, hinder or destroy what God has brought together with our love.  Appreciate every opportunity to say I love you because you may not have a tomorrow and it may be the only thing that will carry you through your tomorrow!

 

 I will leave you this note:  A friend had an argument with his girlfriend on when they would get married.  He was working so hard and was tired every night he just didn't want to talk about marriage.  She knew he was going to marry her, foot she was the mother of his babies.   As they went to bed tired and mad when she said I love you he didn't respond.  The next morning when he woke up with her in his arms, calmer now he kissed her cold, limped, dead body!!! This is a true story the sad part of the story is he had just told his barber that he was going to buy the ring but now he is left to raise his two kids alone, and the last thing he has to remember is I didn't tell her I LOVE YOU!!!!   Don't let one I love you moment go bye because you may not have tomorrow!

 

OKAY LADIES SHARE YOUR I LOVE YOU THOUGHTS....WHAT HAS KEPT YOU THROUGH YOUR YEARS OF MARRIAGE!!!!

 

Wife or Wifey

So my silly sister in law post this outrageous link on face book and me and my silly self look it up.  While browsing through this seemingly mudane comments on sex and relationship, I came across a very interesting comment.  Wife or Wifey..... We all know the saying thats my wifey...oh she is Wifey material, man she going to be my wifey....even to me it sound cute and comical even.  A term of endearment even, until I read this young man's take on the term. Please see below and caution I can't say for sure but he doesn't write on the saved perspective.

Wifey, in my opinion is a girl that one likes and has been down with a guy through everything, but he feels like he could never actually propose to and be with her forever. Wifey has just always been around. That's why some wifeys never understand when their man leaves and all of a sudden he is married- she's lacking something. A wifey is something like a wife, but she is simply not her.
The best thing a woman can do is evaluate herself, and compare it to how her lover views her. Because at the end of the day you know if you are a wifey or the wife. If you've always have had doubts about getting the bling on your ring finger, than you probably are the wifey. The Wife knows that there are no other chicks that compare to her or that are even in her league with that man, she knows she has no competition.

Wifey is a control device, it's a title giving so she won't ever leave; she thinks its cute but its not. I'm his wifey, "wifeys" or anything with "ey" at the end of it is the pet, miniature, or the lesser of the real. Take heed ladies, men will string you along like a puppy for companionship and drop you like a hot plate for the wife material that they really want. Just know your place and know the roles of the man/men in your life. Do this, so you won't get hurt or waste anymore time dealing with a guy that will never give you all of what you want from him.

And even if you are wife material, you may not be the wife for him. Two good people are not always meant for one another, even though they both bring great things to the table.

Ladies how do you know if your the wife or the wifey? How do you determine if a man is husband material? What do you do to be thought of as a good wife? Do you understand that the man determines who is wife material and not you?

So after reading this article I promptly called my husband and said babe thank you so much for thinking of me as your WIFE!!!!  That terminology to me means totally different. I caution the young ladies about allowing the young men to use this terminology in referring to you, because like he said it is simply a control mechinism to keep you with him on the hope that one day you will be his wife. I am not saying that this is how every man feels, please understand, but our younger generation seems to what to always drink the milk but never buy the cow (as my mom would say)!

 As I have lived my life I often ask God help me my husbands help meet, teach me to be humble and appreciative in all that you give me and all that you do.  While I totally disagree that man determines wife material, I am in agreement that men of today have totally different concept on what Christ wants us to be as a wife.  I often tell people I do not classify my self as "First Lady"  why I am not looking for Dee to have another FIRST LADY!!! LOL, but I also do not see that terminolgy use in God's Word neither do I see the word WIFEY!!  The adjective I pray that my husband use for me is Virteous.  A crown upon his head, someone he is simple Proud to have on his arm.  I want him to need me as his wife not hold me on a shelf so no one else wants me.  I want to compliment and enhance everything about him, so when I think of the terminolgy Wife I simply refer back to the bible.....

Proverbs 31:10-31 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
¹¹ The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
¹² She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
¹³ She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
¹⁴ She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
¹⁵ She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
¹⁶ She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
¹⁷ She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
¹⁸ She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
¹⁹ She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
²⁰ She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
²¹ She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
²² She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
²³ Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
²⁴ She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
²⁵ Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
²⁶ She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
²⁷ She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
²⁸ Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
²⁹ Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
³⁰ Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
³¹ Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates