Will you still love me tomorrow.....

As I fervently pray on what I want to share with everyone this week, the words I Love you keep running over and over in my head.  We often say those words so half heartily, and some only say it in a passionate kiss, a long good bye, during sex or a momentous occasion.

1 Peter 4:8 – Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sin

1 Corinthians 13:13 – And now these three remain: faith,hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

John 13:34 – A new command I give you: love one another as I have loved you, so you must love one another.

I pray that these words of life may be true to us in all our relationships

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When I first got married my husband would say why do I have to kiss you every morning when I leave?  Why do you get upset if I don't tell I love you before I leave?  Why do you have to make sure I kiss you the minute I get home?   You act so excited when I come home?  Now years later after some years of marriage I thank God, for it has been the kisses every morning, the I love you's when we both wanted to cry, the running into his arms when he got home like no one else existed when for all intent and purposes we both should have ran away that has sustained the strength of our marriage.  Now he gets mad if I don't say I love you or if I don't kiss him in the morning. It is tomorrow and guess what I still love him! 

In a blog I was reading the caption said:  You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have.  Now I would like to amend that too:
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YOU NEVER KNOW HOW STRONG YOUR LOVE IS UNTIL YOUR LOVE IS ALL YOU HAVE!!!

My husband and I have been through some really hard times, a sickly child at birth, a sickly wife, lost of job, health problems, family problems, and of course the mere fact he is a minister now pastor challenges have come.  Can you still love me tomorrow?  Can you say I love you when you look at your husband and wonder what is he going to do to fix this?   Man I didn't sign up for this, bills, in laws, bills, economy, foot just drama all together.

 

There is no way that I am about to say we have seen it all because despite my children belief I am still young (lol) but I can definitely say that the only thing that has kept my husband and I is Jesus Christ and the words I LOVE YOU!!!  Sometimes things have gotten so bad that all we could say is I love you.  We didn't know where to turn, we couldn't run to family, no friends to talk too, it has been a  definitely leave and cleave situation. 

Don't get me wrong marriage for me has been more good than bad and there is no one else I would want to share my bad with but the reality is that we don't realize that the words I love you are not just words of expression but action words and no matter what I still love him in the morning.  That despite what ever we are going through we will not give the Devil room to hamper, hinder or destroy what God has brought together with our love.  Appreciate every opportunity to say I love you because you may not have a tomorrow and it may be the only thing that will carry you through your tomorrow!

 

 I will leave you this note:  A friend had an argument with his girlfriend on when they would get married.  He was working so hard and was tired every night he just didn't want to talk about marriage.  She knew he was going to marry her, foot she was the mother of his babies.   As they went to bed tired and mad when she said I love you he didn't respond.  The next morning when he woke up with her in his arms, calmer now he kissed her cold, limped, dead body!!! This is a true story the sad part of the story is he had just told his barber that he was going to buy the ring but now he is left to raise his two kids alone, and the last thing he has to remember is I didn't tell her I LOVE YOU!!!!   Don't let one I love you moment go bye because you may not have tomorrow!

 

OKAY LADIES SHARE YOUR I LOVE YOU THOUGHTS....WHAT HAS KEPT YOU THROUGH YOUR YEARS OF MARRIAGE!!!!

 

Wife or Wifey

So my silly sister in law post this outrageous link on face book and me and my silly self look it up.  While browsing through this seemingly mudane comments on sex and relationship, I came across a very interesting comment.  Wife or Wifey..... We all know the saying thats my wifey...oh she is Wifey material, man she going to be my wifey....even to me it sound cute and comical even.  A term of endearment even, until I read this young man's take on the term. Please see below and caution I can't say for sure but he doesn't write on the saved perspective.

Wifey, in my opinion is a girl that one likes and has been down with a guy through everything, but he feels like he could never actually propose to and be with her forever. Wifey has just always been around. That's why some wifeys never understand when their man leaves and all of a sudden he is married- she's lacking something. A wifey is something like a wife, but she is simply not her.
The best thing a woman can do is evaluate herself, and compare it to how her lover views her. Because at the end of the day you know if you are a wifey or the wife. If you've always have had doubts about getting the bling on your ring finger, than you probably are the wifey. The Wife knows that there are no other chicks that compare to her or that are even in her league with that man, she knows she has no competition.

Wifey is a control device, it's a title giving so she won't ever leave; she thinks its cute but its not. I'm his wifey, "wifeys" or anything with "ey" at the end of it is the pet, miniature, or the lesser of the real. Take heed ladies, men will string you along like a puppy for companionship and drop you like a hot plate for the wife material that they really want. Just know your place and know the roles of the man/men in your life. Do this, so you won't get hurt or waste anymore time dealing with a guy that will never give you all of what you want from him.

And even if you are wife material, you may not be the wife for him. Two good people are not always meant for one another, even though they both bring great things to the table.

Ladies how do you know if your the wife or the wifey? How do you determine if a man is husband material? What do you do to be thought of as a good wife? Do you understand that the man determines who is wife material and not you?

So after reading this article I promptly called my husband and said babe thank you so much for thinking of me as your WIFE!!!!  That terminology to me means totally different. I caution the young ladies about allowing the young men to use this terminology in referring to you, because like he said it is simply a control mechinism to keep you with him on the hope that one day you will be his wife. I am not saying that this is how every man feels, please understand, but our younger generation seems to what to always drink the milk but never buy the cow (as my mom would say)!

 As I have lived my life I often ask God help me my husbands help meet, teach me to be humble and appreciative in all that you give me and all that you do.  While I totally disagree that man determines wife material, I am in agreement that men of today have totally different concept on what Christ wants us to be as a wife.  I often tell people I do not classify my self as "First Lady"  why I am not looking for Dee to have another FIRST LADY!!! LOL, but I also do not see that terminolgy use in God's Word neither do I see the word WIFEY!!  The adjective I pray that my husband use for me is Virteous.  A crown upon his head, someone he is simple Proud to have on his arm.  I want him to need me as his wife not hold me on a shelf so no one else wants me.  I want to compliment and enhance everything about him, so when I think of the terminolgy Wife I simply refer back to the bible.....

Proverbs 31:10-31 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
¹¹ The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
¹² She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
¹³ She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
¹⁴ She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
¹⁵ She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
¹⁶ She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
¹⁷ She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
¹⁸ She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
¹⁹ She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
²⁰ She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
²¹ She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
²² She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
²³ Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
²⁴ She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
²⁵ Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
²⁶ She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
²⁷ She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
²⁸ Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
²⁹ Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
³⁰ Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
³¹ Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates