A song writer said.... I wish I could tell you just what I want and you would give it to me just like that!!!!!
That is my testimony today!!!!
When God gave me this title for my blog I really didn't understand exactly what He was doing with it, but I see that my life has been a faith walk every step of the way. My Dad never knew how to love me but I had faith that God did. My brothers have no concept of who I really am but I have always had faith that God knew who I am. My sister has always depended on me but the majority of my life the ones I thought I could depend on have one by one been taken away, but God!! My husband as loving, supportive and protective as he is can not protect me from the hurts of life that hits the inner soul of a women!! My Children fill me with Love, admoration and pride but the emptiness that comes with life only God can fill. So no matter how beautiful your life may seem, it always throws some crazy blows at us and sometimes they are not blows; they are simple NO's from our heavenly father!!!!
The no's hurt worst than the maybe's. I will never ever understand all of the hurts I have experience in my life, but I do understand that God has a plan for me and I understand that sometimes he simply says no!!!!
His no is complete, there is no turning back the clock or bringing back the years that are missed, but I pray daily that the void He has allowed to be place in my heart, the emptines and lonliness is soon filled with love and joy once again.
So my testimony to you...my beloved is Walking in Faith is not an easy task. It is not something so easily acquired. There is no floor plan or map...it is simply walking, trusting and believing that:
1. God is God all by Himself
2. My ways are not his wayIsaiah 55:8-9
3. He has a plan for me that I will not always understandJeremiah 29:11
4. His will is perfect(Romans 12:2
5. His love is true and sacrificial Romans 5:8; 1 John 4:9-10
6. Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God Romans 10:17
7. You can not have faith in him if you don't believe in him, you can not believe in him, if you don't trust him and you can not trust him if you don't Love HIM!!!! John 14:15-30
So my friends listend to my Testimony...and know that I am going walk in faith everyday...no matter what, sooooooooooo
I'll cry till he tells me let it go let it be, because oh Lord your will is what's Best for me!!!!
Psalms 147:3, "He healeth the
broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds."
This may not touch anyone’s life but mines, but I pray it
blesses someone along the way.
As I ponder my life and the journey have seen thus far, I am
shock how wounded and damage I am.Life
has thrown many blows.Yet in the past
three years it seems as if many of those deep seeded wounds have resurface to
only try to destroy me from within.As a
child I never understood why my father’s favorite name for me was that little Heifer,
or why whenever he had a chance he would tell someone something to make them
think I was a really bad person, or even get me in trouble with my mom. As I
grew I stop really looking to him for validation and just knew that as long as
I loved as hard as I could God would place someone there to love me back.
So each time I love one of my brothers I got another one,
and another one until finally he gave me another best friend my little sister.As I got older I realized the joy in loving
people but I also realized that I wasn’t getting love back.Oh yeah they say they love you but will they
sacrifice on the level you will for them. (reminds us how we treat Jesus)As I got older I realized how damaged my
father was and how much he hated his own mother so he had no respect or love
toward women.Yet even though God
started revealing these things to me, I never understood how he was mending my
hurt!!!! To find out that your dad would lie and tell everyone that you were
taking his money or how he paid for college when he didn't.To find out how he would pit your siblings
against you and all the time you are under the impression they were just having
a bad day.How could one person be so
spiteful? How could God allow a parent to hurt a child so bad?Now, realizing the boys he use to let abuse
you were his children from his mistress was the straw that broke my back…!!! Yet understand I myself had to understand the depth of my fathers hurt before I could ever realize the damage I had. This isn't about bashing my daddy, it is simply to teach everyone that God can mend a wounded heart. See it has taken 67 years for my dad to truly see me as a loving person. It has also taken him 67 years to realize that GOD is in control of his life and no one else. It has taken him all of these years to take responsibility of the actions and decisions he has made, and it is a hard thing for us "man/woman" to look in the mirror. Yet in his reality, there has come some reality that I myself wasn't ready to see.....
Now fast forward……….. I am 44 and I am now realizing that
the words and description that people have categorized me as have always been
depicted by what my daddy has made people believe.Because I can speak pretty well, or because I
have no problem expressing myself, or because I am outgoing and read the bible
for myself; I am always something other
than a young lady that simply love the Lord, that simply loves her family that
simply wants to be the best wife, mother, sister and daughter she can be.Yes I will fight you tooth and nail for my
family but I would never purposely hurt on lie on my family members.Yesterday was an eye opening experience that
I won’t ever be able to clearly explain but I realize that people are shock to
find out that I don’t really like the spot light, I don’t really want the fanfare,
I simply want somebody to love me for me.It hurts to know that deep down even the people you love the most don’t
see you as the person you try to be.It
hurts to know that no matter how quiet or how much you pray that God shows them
how much you truly love them or how much you want them to have the best, they
prefer to see the negative.
Well as I pondered this …..God as always heard my mind!He sent several people to tell me I see you
are wounded but I got the healing potion!!! See when a bird’s wing is wounded
he never stops trying to fly….Yet until it is healed and has built some
strength he never gets off the ground.Now the little bird walks “in faith”every time he tries to fly because he knows sooner or later God is going
to heal his wing and return him to the sky, but his“in faith” may just get him killed!!!!See if he doesn’t get off the ground in just
the right way a car could either hit him or run over him, yet he still walks in
the faith that God will let him fly again.
Now I am that little bird…..I have never really flown, I
have been wounded since childhood….every now and then I may sore just a little
bit in the air, but over and over again that same wound keeps being opened up
and down to the ground I fall!!!!I am
back at the place where no one see’s me fighting just to be loved as a sister,
daughter, wife or mother!Everyone only
sees the business women, the fighter, the activities, the go getter not just
Michele. A man asked me the other day
are you a minister, I laughed because I can’t get sister, daughter, wife and
mother right and you asking me this question.Why?Because I can talk, because
I read God’s word or because you yourself can’t believe that a women like me
simply wants to be me, without the titles and the accolades.
So Lord I Speak
to the pain and release it into Jesus' hands!!!Lord I am wounded….my heart is not broken for the brokenness you
have been mending all along yet when you put two broke pieces together or
better yet when you put shattered pieces together there are always scares to
show the wounds.Now if one of those
scares do not heal right it will leave a scare, or a hard scab that stays
sore.That is where my heart is…A wounded heart who can mend?I know Jesus but a wounded heart is the
easiest to hide.Why because it is still
a whole heart.That wound could be a
deep hole or a long scare.The problem
with the deep hole is that every time the heart pumps the hole is covered up,
so Lord can you see my wounds?Yes I
hear everyone saying God sees all!!!Well Lord
can you hear my soul crying…..!!! I know I know he hears all!
So Lord, I summit my fears, my many years of
hurt and un-acceptance to you.Let me
know that despite what man may want to believe, say or do no one has power over me
but you!!!No Preacher, Pastor, Man,
Women, or Satan has power over my life but you!!!
My dear reader… this is my life!!! This may even be the first
chapter of my book… but please know this….Christ healeth the broken in
heart,.... Christ is a physician; many are the diseases of his people; he heals
them all by his blood, stripes, wounds; and among the rest their broken hearts,
which none can cure but himself; hearts broken words. By applying pardoning grace and mercy to all that request it,
streaming through his blood; and bindeth up their wounds; or "griefs"
(n); and so gives them ease, health, and peace, for which they have abundant
reason to call upon their souls to bless his name and sing his praise; by Gill Exposition
See my beloved one thing I am sure that GOD will MAKE A WAY!!!! GOD WILL SUPPLY ALL OF MY NEEDS!!!!!! GOD WILL MEND MY BROKEN HEART!!!!!! HE IS MY LAWYER IN A COURT ROOM, MY BANKER IN THE FINANCE ROOM, MY DELIVERANCE IN THE TIME OF A STORM AND MY DOCTOR IN THE SICK ROOM!!!
If it wasn’t
for this statement here I wouldn’t be able to declare in the words of Marvin
Sapp…..
I WIN!!!!!
2 Timothy 1:7, "For God hath not given us the spirit
of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."
1 Peter 5:7,
"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."
Well anyone that knows me knows I am not into the Sisterhood
movement, the First Lady classification or the publicized ideology that I have
to be loud, ignorant, arrogant, rude, bible toting, hat wearing, snobbish
acting, unfriendly, 300.00 suit wearing, person to be a saved, well versed,
loving, bible believing, Holy Spirit filled Christian wife of a Pastor!I hope I have covered every aspect of what
they are trying to portray a pastor’s wife as.
For this cause I
titled this one Pastor’s Wife Volume I. Why because I for see other volume’s to
come. LOL!!!
Well yesterday I had
the esteem pleasure of meeting a young lady, whose husband is just totally on
fire for Christ, that didn’t walk around the church like she was “first lady”
but more like first mother, first sister and first friend of the members of her
church.She was humble, quiet, didn’t
look for any fan fair but received it simply because how she has stepped back
and let the Jesus shine in her.
Side bar I have never been to
such an outstanding real anniversary in my life!!!!Not a bunch of fake people loving on their
pastor, but not a dry eye for every story that was told about the pastor and
his love for his church and the love his wife has put into the church.
It was a breath of fresh air to see a Pastor’s wife that
simply wanted to see her husband’s calling fulfilled to God’s glory.Listening to her testimony was just beautiful
and refreshing.It was even more
delightful to see how he and her still had the laughter and joy between each
other that I see sometimes dwindle in all marriage couples.That happens to be one of the hardest things
for two married people to keep up the laughter, the joy, passion and enjoyment
in their marriage, especially when the other women is the church!!!!
So today’s blog is to encourage my sisters in the ministry
of pastor wives!!! It is a thankless job but I am proud to be one.I don’t need any other title.I have no problem with my husband spending
every waking moment at the church because I know Christ must be his first
responsibility.My trust and faith is
that Christ will remind him that he has a wife at home.Now so far Ladies, God has been faithfully on
his Job!!I may not see him like I use
to but every now and then he lets me know I am the women of his dreams.It is the every now and then time that I am
trying to learn to treasures.As my
sister said yesterday that is hard sometimes but it is our responsibility to
ensure that the ministry that our husbands have begun is completed to God’s
glory not our own.
We are his help mates that mean that we must also ensure he
meets the obligations that God has placed on his life. That may mean going to
bed without him one night because he must sit at a hospital bed side all night,
or repair a ceiling in the church before a grand event.It may mean cooking dinner fora church function because sisters forget their duties that
Sunday.It may mean giving up a couple
date nights to help him clean up the new church building that was just donated
to you, or leave church without him because he has to counsel someone through
some hard times.It means giving him
the mental freedom to love on his congregation freely even though you know how
bad they have talked about him and treated him.It especially means being a valued part of that congregation and taking
up the slack where others members fall short.(I tell my husband ain’t no member her is going to out due me on loving
my pastor, LOL) :) You have to remember you are
just as much of a member as the other members and the more support you give
your pastor and holding him up the more desire he has to love you back, even
his wife!!!! The truth of the matter is that a True Call man of God is going to
do THE Fathers business with or without you!The ones that leave a church for his wife, or stop doing God’s work for
you hasn’t saved a marriage but destroyed a calling and to for some their lives.In the end you can be a part of the solution
or a problem Christ will have to remove.You make the choice!
I enjoyed sharing some common concerns with my sisters in
Christ but I enjoyed even more how she has embraced her husband’s vision, her
husband passion and love for Christ and his church!Just another example of a Pastor’s wife who
the church has no problem claiming as their FIRST LADY!!!!
I am so heart broken. Life is not what I expected it to be for the children in today's society. I could get on a soap box and say it is because we as parents are not doing our job. I could stand and quote scriptures and point a finger and tell everyone how wrong we are. I could say it is because we are not preaching and teach our kids the word of God! I could do all of that but it wouldn't change a poianted fact. Our children have substituted the TV for family time; the video came for encouragement; blogs for expressions; social media for counseling and Internet for friends.
I hope she doesn't mind me sharing this story because I pray it may bless someones child along the way. My daughter came to me and asked me could she talked to me. Before I continue let me put a disclaimer out, I totally shun children having facebook pages and instagrams, I can't stand video games, TV and even the internet for my kids but the reality is to function in a technology world they must be techically savy. So when my daughter showed me a group that allowed her to draw her clothing design, I said okay. Now there was so many rules, no real names, no real personal information and I must be able to read any information at all time and have access to her passwords.
I have a very open relationship with all of my children so I was not worried about what she was going to say to me because she is the one child that seems to tell me everything. I mean everything even the things I don't want to know (LOL). Parents don't get that statment twisted I am not under the impression that my children wouldn't hide something from me, because I don't care how open your child is there is always that one situation.
So she says mommy on my page where I design clothes at I meet a good pen pal and we have been friends for two years. I immediately assume it was a boy and she said noooo mommy and smile!!! Yet I saw tears in her eyes and heard the cracking in her voice. She said mommy I am really not into the Internet other than for music and downloading the books I read. So when the site closed down I didn't talk to my friend as much as I use too. Today she fell on my heart and I went out on the Internet to find her, mommy she committed suicide. I was simply broken!!!! Just broken as my baby fell into my arms full of tears and emotion feeling like if she was still witnessing to her she would be alive.
She said I knew she had problems and than she shared with me the young ladies story, due to the graphic situation I will not share but what every you can imagine probably happen. Note that the problems that these young lady had wasn't because she wasn't saved it was because she didn't have any one to show her how salvation can heal, restore and mend brokeness. It is also because so many times it is the people we trust to do the above for us that hurts us the most.
After much research that night, we found the family and reach out to them. Please pray the mother is battling cancer so the family is really going through. Please pray!
Psalm 34:17-20 When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.
She said mommy a lot of times I wouldn't stop talking to her unless she promise she was okay. She told me that she was getting helped that she had gotten saved.... As she continued to cry!!
As I pondered this through the night, I wondered how many other little girls and boys are using any
outlet they can to share their story and their parents have no clue the emotional turmoil they are going through. I have pondered over and over again in my head what could we have done to help this young lady.
Children are not equipped to counsel children and some adults are not either. So what do we do people? I need suggestion because this is really bothering me!!!
The bible says train up a child but what if the parents haven't been trained. The older women are to teach the younger but what if they don't know? People, friends, families and foes what are we going to do to stop our babies from killing themselves and each other?
Isaiah 41:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Looking for Christian that fear not and are ready to not be dismayed. We need to strengthen for this generation to make it and believe that God will hold us up with His Right hand!!!
As I ponder in my mind I ask myself this question, " What if I didn't have faith?" Notice I didn't say my faith. So let me make it clear I don't mean my denomination or Christian affliation. I mean what if I didn't or couldn't trust in something? What if the God I serve only allowed me to see the natural? What if my mind only accepted the logical? What if my flesh could only receive the physical? What if I didn't have FAITH????
A couple of days ago I was talking to a parent and she explained to me that her child will be graduating this year. Now me with my love of children got excited, my first question was what does she want to do? She says she wants to be a doctor!!! Now I am supper hyped? Before I could go any further she said I am trying to talk her out of it. I look puzzled! I said "for real?" She said oh yes we don't have money for her to be no doctor she should be a nurse or something with only four years. I said is that faith? Now she looked puzzled. I commenced to telling her the story of Alex and Aleisha going to college last year.
See Alex got a scholarship and while Aleisha got one it wasn't to the school she wanted to go to. So I said Aleisha God will make a way. Now I told my sister when she was a baby if she wanted to go to school I would pay for it, not knowing how much it would cost! LOL! Well here comes the day... two kids in college, two tuition and quite frankly no money. I never stopped praying and I never stopped having faith. See I asked God for several signs' that I was doing His will with my children and with each one He would come through. One of those signs was that they would be accepted in the college of their choice, the next was a new and larger contract, and the next was that they would get scholarships. Well now here comes my dilema, Alex got one but Aleisha didn't at least not at Tuskegee. What was God saying?
Well I went back to my knees and I said Lord Faith is the substance of things hoped for (I was hoping for a scholarship) and the evidence of things not seen (but I didn't see evidence of my faith)!!! So here I go getting in the cars loading up two cars and headed to Tuskegee knowing I didn't have 8k a month to pay for a student. But Faith, But God....I could give you every but in the world because the reality of the matter said one thing, man said another thing but God had it all in his hands.
In faith I packed my son and sister up; In faith I drove to Tuskegee; In faith I walked on Tuskegee Campus; In faith I went to the kids dorm rooms knowing that I didn't have the money, but GOD!!! When I got to the campus I was called to a Dean's office he said I need to talk to your students. He handed them two more scholarships! When we left his office in tears my balance for two kids went from almost 10K a month to 1200.00 a month for the both! Now I am not going to lie I shouted all across Tuskegee University Campus. I just kept telling everybody how good God was and is. I stopped a lady who was frustrated and told her do you believe in God she said yes well girl don't you take your baby home you go right back in there. While on your knees to Christ asking him to intercede in your childs behalf. See,I don't know who shouted more, my husband, my mom, my kids or me. Yet we were some shouting fouls!!!! God SHOWED OUT, WHY BECAUSE OF THE EVIDENCE NOT SEEN!!!
See I don't know any one else but God. I can't rely on anyone else but him and I could not exsist if I didn't have faith that he would pull me through! It is hard some times; to see your family in disarray, to see your finances fall short, to see your relationships not where you feel they should be, BUT GOD!! Right now I am walking in pure faith that God will answer a prayer for me, but the evidence is just not there, but GOD! God doesn't work in our Natural situations He must work in the spiritual realm to get his desired natural reaction. WOW... I just witnessed to myself!
Faith is for the faithful not the faithless! It is so hard to be faithful when there is no evidence that what you are believing God to do is there. But God is an Evidence maker!!! Faithfulness is one of the hardest act that we as Christian must exemplfy! The song writer says we are not a natural being living a spiritual experience, but we are a spiritual being living this natural experience. He is saying to stop looking at the Facts or reality of a situation, you must always deal with Christ on a spiritual level because when you don't you won't be able to experience the evidence not seen!!!
My mommy says it like this Fact says one thing, reality says another but God says.......now you fill in the blank!!
I am broken but not discourage persecuted but not dismayed I am a vessel full of power with the presences of the Lord!!!
As a Pastor's wife I am in a unique position to see brokenness at a different view. I get to hear the stories after stories of brokenness from all over, not just at the church but from the day to day events my husband may be involved with, to the various young ladies I counsel, to the beautiful sisters I am blessed to fellowship with. Yet this post has been the hardest for me to write, because my spirit is broken and dismayed with the current state of our Christian community.
Brokenness is something that everyone, Saved, Saint and Sinner will experience. While many may not admit this it is a fact that brokenness is a fact of life. My brokenness is not because someone came and call me out of my name, many times it is not because I did not get my way, my brokenness is when I have prayed, fasted, tried and tried and God still "SEEMS" as if he just is not hearing my cry. My brokenness isn't because you talked about me it is because I asked God to fix you, well the spirit that brought your negative-ness yet you continue. My brokenness comes from watching saints; the Christian community continues to give Christ substandard devotion, half hearted worship and kitchen sink praise. Even though before I go into any spiritual meeting I ask him Lord let them see how wonderful you are!!
I am broken my sisters and brothers not because anyone has done anything it is because so many have done nothing. I have watched this world, this country; our communities and our churches just diminish so in our values, our morals and our Christian belief.
When is it now okay for a Pastor to have an affair on his wife, steal from the church and than preach for the sacred podium proclaiming the love, adoration and commitment of Christ to us. Why is it okay for a Pastor to despise his mother and father, have animosity toward other men of God including their own brothers but continue to preach forgiveness and God's redemptive blood from the sacred podium. Why is it okay for fellow people of the cloth to be okay to chastise their congregation for looking so sternly on these act yet are the first not to chastise or correct their fellow coharts in the ministry.
I have had two people this week tell me the reason they can not go back to church is because of what a Pastor has done to offend. It wasn't until last night that I understood that when the hurt comes from the Pulpit it is far greater than anyone else because this is the person that is to represent God in Christ like behavior. (Yes I know they are still human yet that is the excuse we give everyday and the sinner man per the conversation I had yesterday is not buying it. Like I was told you tell me I am just justifying my actions when I give you an excuse but are you not doing the same!!! WOW is all I could say. People we "Christians are hurting and hindering the salvation of this world!)
2 Chronicles 7:14
King James Version (KJV)
14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
It is okay for our Christians to go to church everyday, claim their ever dying love towards Christ but will not call or even speak to a love one in need. It is okay for us to say we are saved but before we leave the church grounds speak ill of our brothers and sisters.
Saints I JUST WASN'T RAISED LIKE THAT!!!!!
1. The man of God that I sat under for over 30 years and the one I sit under now, daily prayer was/is Lord I don't want to be a jack leg preacher. A preacher that was everywhere but did nothing or one that no one trusted or believe in. My husband constant prayer is let them see the Christ in me!
1 Timothy 3:2, 12
"A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach. . . . Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well."
2. I was taught to honor your mother and father...to bring honor unto them. Whether they were right or wrong. My mother often say's it matters not what you do to me, but it matters how I treat you!!!
Proverbs 19:26 King James 2000
He that mistreats his father, and chases away his mother, is a son that causes shame, and brings reproach.
3. Ought against your brother and still preaching and telling people about forgiveness. How can you teach something when you don't practice. Great Link!! This link helped me through some rough times in my life. So now it doesn't matter if you speak to me or not I have forgiving you and moved on!!
http://pastormikeadventist.blogspot.com/2008/12/ought-against-thy-brother.html
4. Christ Like behavior as a Christian is not as easy as people think, trust me I am learning this everyday, but we as Christian made a promise to Christ to strive to be Christ Like!!! How do we claim to be doers of his word when we speak ill of our brothers and sister, and gossip. I haven't read anywhere that this is acceptable in Christ Sight!!!
James 1:22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.
Ya'll I am so glad that as my husband preached a couple Sunday's ago that GOD can mend my broken pieces. I am so glad that I am not bound by the words of man who are just flesh and blood like me. I hear so many men of God say "hey, hey I am a pastor or preacher, but there lives depict whole different life styles" God said touch not his anointed. What everyone forget that if we are save they are also God's anointed, so what if they touch his anointed. There is song that simply says "somebody going to pay for my tears" One thing I have truly learned that just because we are saved, just because a title has been attached to your name DOES NOT GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO OFFEND, HURT OR DIMEAN ANYONE, THROUGH CHRIST! As I am growing in Christ I am learning to distance myself from people that feel they can say and do anything and hide behind the Cloth because in this short life I am seeing a lot of men of God, and Christians pay an enormous price for their sins against God's anointed.
Proverbs 26:27
Whoever digs a pit will fall into it, and he who rolls a stone will have it roll back on him.
Saints God is a vengeful God that is word, so don't believe that our continued disobedience, disrespect towards our parents, children and others, our lack of love and honor, and our lack of fear for his word and commandments will not be answered for. God showed me something wonderful today...Vengeance is mine saith the Lord!! He will have the final say!!
Romans 12:19 (King James Version)
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Deuteronomy 32:35 :
King James Bible To me belongeth vengeance and recompence; their foot shall slide in due time: for the day of their calamity is at hand, and the things that shall come upon them make haste
So..I am troubled, yet not distressed.Perplexed, but not in despair.Cause I’m a vessel full of power,With a treasure, none can compare. Persecuted, but not forsaken.Cast down, but not destroyed.I’m a vessel full of powerWith a treasure, from the Lord.
My pastor while I was growing up, rest his soul, use to have a saying to all
of the honeymooners when they came back to church after their honeymoon. He
would chuckle and say "Wow you came to church is the Honey still in the
moon?" The whole church would burst into laughter as the new couple would
blush.Now that I am grown, I look back and
remember how you could tell those that
came to church because they were saved and grateful for their new found love but
also really wanted to stay cuddled up next to that love one and those that
really saw church as a solace to get away from that person.
During this past few months I have seen so many marriages just fall apart.
When the details come out you find that somewhere alone the line the nurture
and courting stop! For some there was no foundation for the relationship at
all. We ask society why are so many of our young people not desiring the
sanctify of marriage. WHY...because it is not fun to them. There
is no laughter, affection, communication or respect that they see from us as
adults in marriages today. If
Daddy is always demeaning mommy, if mommy is always yelling at dad what would
make me desire marriage.
My children often tell me mommy and daddy you all are so funny; you too
laugh too much; you too kiss too much; you two are really funny and if by
chance they see us arguing the common statement is mommy why are you so quiet,
why is daddy quiet? While they see us get upset with each other it is NEVER in
a disrespectful way, NEVER!!!! Now I am
not trying to fool anyone we argue and have our bad days like any other
relationship but my kids will tell you: Daddy doesn’t let anybody disrespect
mommy. Mommy doesn’t yell at or disrespect daddy. Why? RESPECT!!! Do we disagree yes, does
he make me mad oh yea, but I am aware of my children and how my actions affect
them, I am aware that this is the man I promise to spend my life with and I
often ask the question can I live with what I say in the morning, but most of
all I FEAR GOD!
We are for loving only should be our daily goal for our spouse. Using my Pastor
statement, the Honey should never
come out of the moon. Love is a constant action word. That means we
should constantly be doing things in a loving and respectful manner. We should
constantly show our spouse we love them, but remember we are showing our
children too. In other words you should be constantly doing something to spice
up your love affair with your spouse and when those times come where you don’t
agree, remember WHAT would Jesus do?AND
don’t be like me and say well I am not Jesus (LOL). Seriously though every
effort should be made to reconcile your differences in a timely manner.Pride must be forsaken many times and the heart
must be willing to reconcile itself past the hurt.This is not always easy but it is a necessary
process for a successful Christian marriage and healthy Christian life.
The same should be the same with your relationship with Christ. So many of
us think of our relationship with Christ as a one sided relationship. Well Christ
said he loved me he will take care of me, but that is not how this relationship
thing should work. We MUST show appreciation, gratitude, respect, and love to
that special someone and especially to Christ.
Today we watch so many marriages fall apart strictly because they forgot the
lover in them. We have teen pregnancies and none responsible fathers why
because the structure of the home is messed up!!! I say this with the upmost
respect...Marriage is the first Covenant of God!
BOOOOYAAAAA!!!! How many went to the family dinner and forgot that they were
married none the less a Christian. How many went on the out of town excursion
and left Christ sitting in your living room with your husband/wife. How many
said I can talk to God another Day...Ladies and Men how many of you treat your
marriage just like you treat your relationship to Christ!!! What I am seeing is
as long as God is blessing you he is in your life, as long as your spouse is
loving on you and giving you all the attention you can't do with out him/her.
I caution everyone I am watching a lot of marriages go array because we
treat our commitment to our marriage just like we treat our relationship with
Christ, a fly by night relationship. When you fly by (I use the pronoun you)
the thinking of, as long as you do what I think you should I need you, as long
as you cater to me I love you; as long as you let me have my way I love you, and
the list goes on. So as Pastor J.E. King
would say "Is the Honey still in the MOON?"
Can you say you a Lover of Christ and your mate……
1. How can you just endow him with your love, take a walk and just talk to
him and think on every good thing he has done for you in just that day. Praise
him for just allowing you to call him
Savior!!! When praises go up blessings go down....This works for your spouse too, HINT HINT!
2. Write Christ a love letter.. I do it often, this keeps me grounded, it
shows me a lot of things that I take for granted that he has done. I have done this for
my husband too!!!!
John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this that he lay down his life for his friends…I feel as if I can not breath with out my husband and I would
give my life for him!!! Can you say that about the oneyou love?
3. Fellowship with him... put on your favorite worship song and just go
in......Put your favorite Love song on and just get it
onJ
So let’s see lovers.....
Genesis 29:20
So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so
strong that it seemed to him but a few days.
1. Right now as you reading are you thinking how can I seduce him to come
home early. Call him tell you were just thinking about how he makes
you..........(ladies use your imagination)
Proverbs 5:19
A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you
ever be captivated by her love.
2. Write him a love letter or a poem nothing hits a man when a women can put
her emotions in beautiful love notes for no reason!!! Trust me it reaps
beautiful benefits
Song of Solomon 8:6
Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is
as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing
fire, like a mighty flame. (NIV)Song
of Solomon 8:7
Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to
give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned. (NIV)
Like I said Marriage is for Lover’s only, not for the faint of heart, not
for the immature teenagers, and not for one that can not commit to the vows of
marriage hold heartedly!!!TILL DEATH DO US PART,
A VERY POWERFUL STATEMENT!
MAXWELL HAS A SONG I ATTACHED BELOW PLEASE LISTEN AND READ THE LYRICS THEY ARE PRETTY DEEP!!!!
